Why we’re “pre-wired” for anxiety – with Fred Zelinger


Please Explain “Anxiety” to Me (Audiobook Edition)

Humans have always experienced anxiety as a defense mechanism to danger, says Fred Zelinger, a Cedarhurst psychologist. “Anxiety is fundamentally a survival need. If something worries us, we end up doing something to be safe, to avoid the danger,” he says.

But it’s no longer a sabre-toothed tiger that’s the threat, Zelinger says. Now it’s COVID-19, and the “doing something” might be frantically searching for hand sanitizer or stocking up on food in case of a quarantine.

“Will I be safe?’ That’s what this is all about,” agrees Deborah Serani, a psychologist in Smithtown who teaches at Adelphi University. Catastrophizing–mentally jumping right to the worst-case scenario–is at the root of much of this fear, Serani says. “You want to be reasonable with your thinking.”

Reasoned planning and adjustments to daily life are positive ways to manage fear, Zelinger says. “You want to regain a sense of control.”

Mary Czaja, 62, of Bay Shore, who is on disability with osteoarthritis, says she is taking some precautions such as avoiding crowds, but she’s also not “freaking out.” “I have a healthy respect for what’s going on,” Czaja says. “You always respect your enemies. The virus is the enemy.”

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Please Explain Divorce to Me!

Because My Parents Are Breaking Up
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Product Details
UPC: 978-1-61599-780-0
Brand: Loving Healing Press
Binding: Paperback
Audiobook: Audible, iTunes
Edition: 1st
Author: Laurie Zelinger
Pages: 44
Publication Date: 01/01/2024

Because divorce or separation in cohabitating relationships is a family event, this book was written for both children and adults. Gently telling their children that they will be getting a divorce, a mother and father share their family story: the journey from their happy wedding day, through the conflict at present and into the near and reassuring future. The book's second half highlights important tips and insights for parents.

Children will:

  • Learn about the divorce process
  • Find out that their own parents' divorce is not their fault
  • Discover that parents divorce each other; they do not divorce their children
  • Be comforted knowing they are still part of a family who loves them
  • Understand what it is like to have two homes

Parents will:

  • Have a framework for telling their children they are getting a divorce
  • Hear the common questions children ask
  • Learn the DOs and DON'Ts regarding their own behavior
  • Improve the likelihood of creating a healthier divorce
  • Understand their children's reactions and support their emotions

"Dr. Zelinger expertly navigates the sensitive topic of divorce, providing young readers with a compassionate and understanding perspective. The book's engaging storytelling, complemented by vibrant illustrations, encourages open dialogue and empowers children to navigate, with resilience and comprehension, the emotional complexities of divorce." -- Sarah Becker, MD, Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, Premium Health Center, Brooklyn, NY

"The message of Dr. Zelinger's book echoes our primary goal as divorce mediators--to assist divorcing couples to create a healthier, non-adversarial divorce for the entire family. In a gentle - albeit direct - manner, Dr. Zelinger provides a thoughtful, well-planned approach for parents to prepare their children for the news of their divorce." -- Maren Cardillo, Esq., Divorce Mediation Professionals

Learn more at www.DrZelinger.com

From Loving Healing Press www.LHPress.com

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