On High Road to Humanity I sat down with Diane Wing — author, teacher, intuitive consultant and personal development coach — to talk about energy: how it shapes our mood, our relationships, our bodies and even the objects and spaces we spend time in. Diane has spent decades helping empathic and energetically sensitive women get grounded, trust themselves and move from anxiety into tranquility. What follows is a practical, heartfelt distillation of our conversation, the tools Diane and I use daily, and steps you can take right now to protect and reclaim your energy.
Who is Diane Wing and why this matters
Diane brings a rare mix of clinical training and metaphysical skill. She’s written books including The True Nature of Tarot: Your Path to Personal Empowerment and The True Nature of Energy: Transforming Anxiety into Tranquility. Her work focuses on empowering people who give a lot of themselves — especially empaths and highly sensitive women — so they stop feeling depleted, invisible or controlled by other people’s emotions.
We talked about Diane’s personal journey: an early emotionally abusive marriage, a demanding career that drained her, and the moment she decided to “take back her power.” That decision wasn’t dramatic — it came through study, self-awareness, and boundary-setting. She used research and writing as tools to separate what belonged to her from what didn’t — a useful model for anyone recovering energy and reclaiming life.
Energy basics: where it comes from and how it affects you
Energy isn’t just a poetic idea — it’s the lens through which you experience your life. Diane framed it simply: you’re constantly receiving, generating, and exchanging energy. The tricky part is knowing which energy is yours and which has been picked up from others, places, or objects.
- We take on other people’s energy all day long, whether at work, in stores, at family gatherings, or on public transit. Empaths experience this acutely.
- Places, buildings and objects absorb imprints. Hospitals, bars, classrooms — each has a distinct energetic “feel.”
- Thoughts and intentions direct energy. Even unkind or resentful thoughts sent toward you can have an effect.
Signs you might be carrying other people’s energy
- Unexplained fatigue after brief interactions.
- Sudden headaches or mood swings that don’t match your day.
- A “muddy” or heavy feeling around your aura or home.
- Repetitive relationship patterns that leave you drained.
Practical tools to clear, shield and strengthen your field
Diane and I both use and teach simple, repeatable practices for maintaining energetic hygiene. You don’t need elaborate rituals — small habits make a huge difference.
Daily and simple clears
- Salt baths: a little table salt or rock salt in the tub can be cleansing and restorative.
- Quick shower scrub: using a salt scrub or showering with intention to wash away “muddy” energy.
- Saging or smudging: clearing a room or a group before sessions or gatherings to remove stuck energy.
- Grounding and dumping: visualize or practice techniques that root you into the earth and release excess energy.
Shielding and cord-cutting
- Learn a basic daily shield — a visualized boundary of light or other protection around your body. Diane has shielding techniques in her book.
- Cord cutting: intentionally release energetic attachments to people or situations that continually drain you (this can be a visualized practice or a guided exercise).
Charged objects, crystals and anchors
- Objects hold energy. Be mindful when acquiring used items or antiques—some things come with imprints.
- Charge objects intentionally: a pen for creativity, a stone for grounding, a necklace for protection. Once charged, limit others handling the piece.
- Crystals Diane mentioned: citrine (for clearing negative dream energy), Herkimer diamond (to enhance dreams and intuitive work), and selenite (for clearing and stabilizing energy in a space).
- Wearables with intention: crosses, medals, talismans, or any piece that you’ve consecrated with a protective or communicative intention.
Energy of places, imprints and charged environments
Everything in our environment imprints energy — walls, chairs, shops, offices, concert halls. If you feel off in a place, trust that instinct. You can cleanse spaces, avoid repetitive exposure, or change seating choices (yes, some chairs hold “good” energy and others feel heavy).
Practical approaches to spatial energy:
- Sage rooms before hosting or teaching to remove residue energy.
- Bring charged stones or symbols into frequently used rooms to “steer” the energy.
- When entering a new space, do a quick grounding breath and intention to remain centered.
Relationships, patterns and raising your vibration
Repetitive relationship dynamics — choosing partners who are controlling, for example — often reflect an energetic pattern. Diane’s upcoming work identifies recurring “love patterns” and shows how shifting your internal vibration pulls you into healthier matches.
““When you change your vibration, you resonate with people at that new vibration.””
Key relational practices:
- Set boundaries early and consistently.
- Be cautious about who you share hopes and plans with — not everyone will cheer you on.
- Move from judgment and resentment toward acceptance. Diane suggests acceptance (no-judgment) can be more practical and freeing than traditional forgiveness.
When energy work isn’t enough: combine approaches
Not every issue is purely energetic. Sometimes symptoms like panic-like sensations or unusual fatigue have a medical origin. Diane emphasizes the importance of combining modalities: medical checkups, appropriate Western treatments, and energetic or alternative therapies (acupuncture, Reiki, therapy) when helpful.
Don’t delay medical care in favor of affirmation-only approaches. Energy work is powerful, but it complements—not replaces—appropriate professional medical attention.
Everyday checklist: habits that protect and restore
- Clear your field morning and night (5–10 minutes).
- Ground daily: short walk, breathwork, or a grounding stone.
- Use salt baths or a quick scrub after heavy social days.
- Sage people before and rooms after important gatherings or classes.
- Charge an object (pen, necklace, stone) with clear intention and keep it sacred.
- Limit alcohol and depressants if you’re intentionally raising your vibration.
- Get adequate rest, movement and routine medical checkups.
Resources and next steps
If you want to explore further, Diane’s book is titled The True Nature of Energy: Transforming Anxiety into Tranquility. She has resources and a vibrational quiz at her sites: DianeWing.com and dianewingauthor.com. If you’re working through narcissistic patterns and abuse, there are courses and communities (I’ve created a class called Healing Narcissistic Abuse with Spirit and the Angels at nancy.com) designed to combine spiritual tools with practical healing strategies.
Parting thoughts
Energy is a lived experience — not an abstract idea. The more consciously you tend to your energetic hygiene, the clearer your mind, the steadier your nerves and the more aligned your relationships will become. Start small, choose one practice from the checklist and make it a daily habit. Change will follow: you’ll find your boundaries, restore your power, and invite people and places that match your new frequency.
We all deserve to move from anxiety into tranquility. With gentleness, discernment and practical tools, it’s one deliberate step at a time.
