How do I learn to love myself?

Somewhere on this planet, there is a young person who has constant, irrational feelings of guilt, shame and worthlessness. S/he has progressed from self-bashing to asking me this question.

Here is my answer:

    • Learning to love yourself is an excellent project.

As you know, I am handicapped by a scientific training. That means, I don’t believe anything, but go with the evidence. When new evidence comes in, I revise my model of reality. After having done this for over 50 years, here is my current model. To list the evidence would need me to write a book. (What a good idea!)

All is One. Some people call this God, but to many, God is an Old Man in the Sky, so I avoid the term. I think of the whole Universe as a self-aware, sentient Being. Maybe it is a young Person, perhaps a teenager as Universes go, and so It is rapidly growing.

It needs a great many new components that are metaphorically Its brain cells. The Universe, which is life energy, has created the universe of matter and energy that we can perceive as a school for souls. It is an illusion in a way, but also part of the One.

There are innumerably large seats of life in the universe, not only on planetary surfaces. They are all schools for souls. Earth is one of them.

We are here with the purpose of growing spiritually. We go round and round, life after life, going backward and forward, but over many lives it is inevitably positive growth. That’s why I have called my life story Ascending Spiral. Have you read that?

When we have learned all the lessons there are to learn, we can stop the life business and move up to a higher level, although some enlightened beings choose to return to guide us younger ones.

You, your spirit, are a part of this. You are a tiny drop of God.

Before you were born, you designed this life, with the assistance of a superior spirit, who was probably someone who has graduated. In my past life recalls, I have distinct memories of… conversations? with a Mother Person who gave me unconditional love, but forced me to experience all those events in my previous life when I had an impact on other people. Only, what I experienced was that other person’s emotions. A great many “near death experiences” and other past life recalls report this. It is wonderfully motivational to build on your strengths, to offer to make restitution for harm you have caused, and to choose the lessons you feel you are ready to learn.

Then you are born into this new life, where you are exposed to the lessons you asked for.

No one can know what your chosen life lessons are, but after our years of emailing each other, my guess is that “Learning to Love Myself” may be one of them.

I am not going to tell you how to go about it, because it is far more powerful if you invent it for yourself. But read what I have written here over and over. The answer is hidden there. Then let me know what it is — and do it. Do it often and regularly until it becomes second nature, just as long years of repetition has made the self-bashing second nature.

And do it in combination with meditation, and doing your best to live by this rule:

Above all, do no harm. If you can, do good. If you cannot do good, change the situation until you can.

Re-read From Depression to Contentment, and the stories in Lifting the Gloom. You do have those books, don’t you?

The answer to your question is also hidden in both of those books.

With metta,
Bob

A Mouse Tail on Mackinac Island: BOOK 2 [PB] -- RESALE ONLY

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UPC: 978-1-61599-654-4
Brand: Modern History Press
Binding: Paperback
Edition: 1st
Author: Summer Porter
Illustrator: Maggie Chambers
Pages: 38
Publication Date: 05/01/222

Welcome back to Mackinac Island, home of our favorite Mouse family. Join Father Mouse, Mother Mouse, Max and the twins as they take a break from work for a summer vacation at the historic Grand Hotel. In all of its splendor, the Grand Hotel provides a backdrop that guarantees many twists and turns as our little Mouse family navigates their way in a BIG world. Where will they sleep? What mischief will Max get into this time? Will the amazing hotel staff be able to provide lifelong memories for a family of mice? With vibrant illustrations that bring this "Squeak-quel" to life, A Mouse Tail on Mackinac Island II promises to be a GRAND addition to any child's library.

"Even as an adult, I would have loved to be a part of this vacation story. Every encounter and experience the mouse family shares at the Grand Hotel gives me a heartfelt smile. This kind, relatable tale about a family on Mackinac Island is one you will treasure, along with many of your own memories and adventures in this special place." --Marie E. Hulett, Manager/Curator of Wings of Mackinac Butterfly Conservatory, and shop owner.

"A Mouse Tail on Mackinac Island is an absolute delight - the charming mouse family characters brimming with personality bring this whimsical tale to life in the most magical way. This book is an heirloom treasure to cherish for years." --Marlee Brown, Mackinac Island resident, professional artist

"Mackinac Island's favorite miniature family travels near for a brand new story of adorable exploits. With whimsical writing and imaginative illustrations, A Mouse Tail on Mackinac II reminds us that life's grandest adventures are experienced alongside the ones we love." --Kate Dupre, local artist, and proprietor, Watercolor Cafe

"Tour Grand Hotel from a mouse's point of view-and get a new take on an old treasure. Kids will fall into Porter's intriguing storyline with its adventures and misadventures. Chambers' illustrations draw the viewer in. See if you can spot the Big Store shopping bag, toted by a day-tripper. Or some unobtrusive horse droppings... MouseTail II will be triggering Mackinac memories for a long time to come." --James J. Bogan, Jr., Author of Seven Wonders of Mackinac and Other Amazements, and once-upon-a-time lifeguard at the Esther Williams pool.

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